Oh! Love!

I know, I know, it's really really late to be talking about love, because it's March. But ITS MY G^%@!M Blog. So.... hehehe

I have been stuck, with a fever for the past 3 days, after shuffling to and fro my different destinations. So I got to watching DVDs from my sister's collection. First I got through scary ones (Silence of the Lambs-Classic-, The Grudge) and then went through the Love Stories. And this is the ones I've got to tell you.

While You Were Sleeping

c (1995)

Sandra Bullock; Bill Pullman

I really liked it, considering it makes us believe in 2 important aspects of love. 1.) Nothing can be totally developed into something and 2.) Family is the deciding factor in a relationship.

I totally believe these two. Nothing was totally developed into something for us two. He was a long time close friend, and we have always had this unspeakable bond between us. Beyond friendship, but not to the point of courtship. It's like my ex-boyfriend used to say... when he's around, I'd just hear his voice and I'd wake up from my deepest sleep just to say Hi to him...We'd text each other while we were with drinking buddies. Nothing provocative or anything, just how are you's and are you okay's. We'd out talk all our friends and stay up til early morning talking about anything and everything... That was our life from out of nothing. We would not see each other for MONTHS and then when we did, it's like it was just yeasterday...

Family, yes, the deciding factor in a relationship. A simple exercise. Think of everyone in his family, think of one word to describe them, an honest word, that first pops into your head...and you'd know what kind of a family you think he has and if you need to learn about them a little bit more. If wods like shallow, cute, insecure or something like that comes out of your monuth, you should definitely learn about them a lot more. Because you are going to be a part of that family. And if you are, then you really need to get them to know a lot more better if the only words taht come out of your mouth are that shallow...

You've Got Mail

c (1998)

Meg Ryan, Tom Hanks

Really nice, romantic movie with a few nostalgic things or two. Like their e-mail, although it was America On-Line, was connected through (gasp) a Dial up Modem-Phone. hehehe. And Tom Hanks also has a Golden Retriever by the name of Brinkley. Like me. But her name is Ginger. (thanks ate!)

I have to tell you about this one cause it thought me the value of TRUST and FORGIVENESS. Trust because Meg's character seems to lead a great life including a great boyfirend everybody keeps hitting on. But she learned to trust and open up to a stranger in the internet and share her life's dreams and passions and mis adventures. That is Blind Trust. DOnt get me wrong, I'm NOT at all for chatroom and anything, it's the kind of trust that I'm describing to you, that makes it endearing, for me. It's complete trust. On my part, 100% I know I can tell him about anything and everything and still he won't look at me any different. One time we had a very heated arguement, the only time in fact, that he was so angry he slammed me to the door, and I got bruises, and I slapped him, which got his left ear ringing for the remainder of the week. Anyway, it wasn't intentional violence or anything, he was trying to calm me down and I wouldn't, and I tried to walk out, and he wouldn't let me. So that's that. Anyway, the next day (actually after 2 days, because I refuse to see him) we talked and patched things up.. I remembered that I said some pretty horrible things to him that fateful night, so horrible that if you knew, I'd have to kill you, but what made me see that he trusted me is the fact that he needed no explaination for me whatsoever, and that he knew I never meant to hurt him, just as much as I knew deep down in my heart (although I tried to deny it) that night, he was not himself and he would never hurt me under a different circumstance... That is trust to me, BLIND TRUSt. You see, you trust somebody with something so ordinary, like strangers making coffee for you, to something so sacred, like you heart, and you should be able to see without opening your eyes that someone will catch you if you fall.

Forgiveness, comes into play when you do something so crazy, like rocking the very foundations of someone's soul, and receiving some kind of okay from that person. That is forgiveness. Thank God we haven't had BIG BIG arguements or shouting matches or infidelity or shaking of one's soul, but I know, that I can forgive him, and forget about it (not the lesson that THAT mistake taught us, but the act itself) because I love him. Simple as that.

License to Wed

c (?)

John Krasinski, Mandy Moore

Now this is a film that got bad reviews, but personally, I think it's kindda funny. And true. There was a lot of truth into what virtues they preached. Things I got alot about this movie, is the title in itself. A license to marry doesnt get any simplier by going to your CIty Hall, looking for an open date, and saying I do infront of a local public official with authority. But, a real license, in a sense that you need quizzes and questions and answers before you get hitched, now that is what I'm talking about.

I have had, officially, 6 wedding proposals to this date. The first one was a very sincere one, from my first boyfriend. It didn't work out. The second 1 was from my second boyfriend, which I was totally considering because I really did feel something deep for him, but obviously, if you fooled around with my only female friend and got her pregnant, there's no chance in hell that it's happening soon. The third one was from a very, very loved friend of mine, to which of course, I decided not to pursue. The fourth one was from a very respected and loved ex-boyfriend, with whom I agreed. But after much consideration and coercion, we decided we were not meant to be after all. The 5th one was from a very significant person in my life, who, by the way joked that "will you marry me"phrase with a "i would definitely marry you, if I hadn't given my word to her" kindda phrase, which broke my heart, by the way. Because he was my one true first love. And the 6th and (LAST) final time is from my current beau, whom I call my husband (check my friendster) to which after 2 years of saving up; we'll make true, is the current proposal I have pending. (I said yes, but after I fulfill my family duties and personaly duty (isa lang ang personal duty ko, maging arkitekto na)). Anyway, watch the movie, because the things we learn from love is not confined to books, to churches, to lectures and speakers and to romance and dreams, it bursts forth from experiences and from believing in each other's goodness inside. ..

So my final take on love? I shit you not, but try to write down 15 possible things you like about your present lover, and if you finished it it 5 minutes or less, you're on the right track. Love never needs explainations, just heart.

15 things I love about You

(time 2:35am)

1. You carry me on your back when there's mud all over the place, even if it means getting your feet dirty.
2. You hold my hands under ANY circumstance.
3. You say I love you so often, yet so hearfelt.
4. You text me kahit tamad akong magreply minsan.
5. You let me talk and talk and talk, and you listen.
6. You talk and talk and talk, and I listen.
7. You make me laugh.
8. You get you hair chopped up or grow it long, even if you don't want to, just for me.
9. You kiss me even if I have morning breath.
10. You cook for me.
11. You think my ate and kuya and my lola are cool.
12. You love my pamangkins, esp. Matt.
13. You do the dishes, wash the laundry, sweep the floor, even if I don't ask you too or if you see I'm too tired to do them.
14. You accompany me to places you hate going to.
15. You waited 2 years for me.

(time 2:39am)

(I;m not kidding!)

Ciao!